Monthly Archives: September 2008


Tomorrow, this man will be my husband. Perfectly imperfect – we are.
(Image from Ethiopia)


Heard This Morning

6 a.m. conversation: “I’ll carry the bottles downstairs, can you carry the baby? I don’t want spit-up on cashmere.”

The Fruits in the Family

Ms. Plum and Blueberry

Mrs. Silly Pants?

No…..I’m not changing my name! Mrs. Silly Pants just doesn’t sound right. I’ll remain Ms. Plum. It works for me – and I’ve spent a long time just learning how to be me!

I’ve gotten some raised eyebrows – what, marrying next week? For those who want to know, Mr. Silly Pants and I will be marrying next week in our home in the company of our children. Songbird will take the bus home from college for the evening, Mr. Waffles, Twinkletoes, and Schwartz will have just enough time to shower after sports and get upstairs for our vows! I hope Blueberry is in good spirits! It’s a chance for Mr. Silly Pants and I to make “legal” the sacred relationshiop that we already share. Our pastor will be present to bless all of us in this committment. Then we’ll feast on some Whole Foods goodies (I am NOT cooking!) and be thankful for our good fortune, our life of plenty, and our beloved family. But no, I’m not going to be Mrs. Silly Pants. I remain, Ms. Plum! (yes, Ms.!)


I’m sometimes a follower, so I’m following the trend to use pseudonyms on this blog. From now on I am Ms. Plum, my beloved is Mr. Silly Pants, and the children are Songbird (college girl), Twinkletoes (senior girl), Mr. Waffles (sophomore boy), Blueberry (Ethiopian adorable son), and our Finnish exchange student, Schwartz. Heheheeheh…Mr. Waffles assigned the names. I had to rule out anything with the word “poop” – that’s how it rolls for 15 year old boys. Gads…he’s nearly 16! I think I’ve changed all of the entries – what a time consuming thing to do!

Tomorrow night we’ll all be out at a local cool restaurant with other cool people eating free food and celebrating our Plumpy’Nut campaign. That’s right – a local restaurant is hosting a party for us! Yeah! Mr. Silly Pants is sending out reminders to all of his really generous co-workers. He’s a good partner, and it’s nice that he is personalizing his invitation for his kind co-workers.

Argh..I’m very tired. Did I mention I’m going to marry Mr. Silly Pants next week? Yes I am. We got our marriage license today and we’ll marry next week. We designed beautiful wedding rings using the eternity knot from Celtic mythology. I think they’ll be lovely – and unique – and ….perfect.

Finally, we wired the funds to Richard today. That was a big leap of faith for us. I’m relieved. I am relieved that in the last moment we deferred to trust instead of suspicion. I hope that makes sense to you readers. Big sigh of relief. As Mr. Waffles sits next to me working on his math homework, I am reminded of the privileges we all take for granted and the multitude of ways we can be responsible for crafting change.

G’nite all!

A Letter to One in Need

*This is the letter I wrote to Richard today – this is so hard for me, but it must be much harder for him – to be so close to help, and to wish with all his energy to change his life. Is this note ok? Does it serve him? Is it compassionate enough? Will I deliver enough help? Are we doing the right thing? Is this letter for him, or really for me?

Dear Richard,
We are working hard to make it possible for your studies to progress.
We often think about you and the other boys we met. We talk about our time in Ethiopia with great fondness, delight, amazement, and respect. Your country is so beautiful, and the people of Ethiopia make the country even more lovely. We also know there is great need in Ethiopia and great struggle for many to work and study. We do recognize how hard you must work for simple things in your own life. It is our intention to help you with the hope of making a difference in your life.
We are trying to help Getu and Getnet also. We know that agreeing to help is important, but also we cannot do all that we want to do. We don’t want to say “no” to anything, but there may be some things that you ask that we cannot do. Please don’t mistake anything that we cannot do as not caring or as unkindness. We do care so much to know you are well and that you are succeeding.
We are happy to know you, and hope we can find ways to assist you to follow your goals to be a fine young Ethiopian man. That is our hope for you. You are being very patient. I know this must be difficult.
In friendship and kindness, Ms. Plum, Mr. Silly Pants
Songbird, Twinkletoes, Mr. Waffles, and Blueberry (the photo is of all 3 boys mentioned)

A PIG – no lipstick

I have the greatest kids…really, I do. I celebrated my 44th this week and my awesome children gave me a PIG! The pig, of course, won’t live with us. She was donated through Heifer Int’l for a family in need. Yeah, to know me is to love me. They loved me well on my birthday. The kids get props for doing this on their own – they get it – I’m proud of them. My teens rock! Thank you, my amazing children! Thank you!