Monthly Archives: October 2008


Disclaimer- I’m an elephant, not a republican!

Waiting…and waiting…and then some more

For those of you in the process, please trust me when I say…..he’s worth the wait. No amount of frustration, impatience, eagerness, earnestness, will change the wait. I’m reminded that Mr. Silly Pants waited his whole adult life to have a family. He hardly showed his emotions about “waiting” during our “wait” – but in truth, I think most of his 30’s and his early 40’s were testimony to his thoughts that his dream of family was never going to materialize. But then everything changed, and Blueberry came into our life. My husband’s life (and mine) filled with new obligations, new duties, and new challenges. Every day we both feel the joy. Some days we feel the growing pains (ok, the truth is that today is one of those days for me). Every day we feel the obligation to raise a kind, compassionate, centered, strong, young black man. Every day we struggle with the question, “how do we do that?” Every day we feel the quiet burning intolerance of racism and it breaks our hearts but not our resolve. Every day we kiss and cherish our perfect little son, whose homeland is Ethiopia, a country to whom we owe such a debt of gratitude and to whom we will work tirelessly to honor and uplift. Yeah, the wait is tough, but trust me, he’s worth it.

Dress code

It’s getting cold and hats are now part of the daily dress code. At the last of big brother’s soccer game, little Blueberry and I enjoyed the morning mist and the awesome defensive moves of Mr. Waffles (#16). And honestly, the babe is just growing by leaps and bounds and I just can’t keep my hands from wrapping him up in big momma bear hugs.


He’s a Finn of few words, and Waffles laughs about his deep “terminator” voice. Ergo, his nickname is Schwartz. 18 years old and he’s a hoot. His common utterances include:

“Tennis was quite fun.”
“I think that is quite good.”
“I take the car today.”
“Is there ice cream?”
“When is dinner?”

We really enjoy having him here this year – adding to the melee and reconnecting us with all that I love about Finland. I lived with Schwartz’s mom when I was an exchange student in Finland in 1982. How’s that for connection?

Rings on our fingers and bells on our toes

Well….just rings on our fingers. We designed them and we love them! Mine is the Celtic infinity knot with a blue sapphire – my birthstone. Mr. Silly Pants has the same knot, his birthstone (garnet), and a lovely 1800’s Silly Pant’s family diamond. Happy day!

Bountiful Boy

NOT undecided

Yeah, it’s our yard!